Saturday, April 25, 2015

Insecurities

Lately I feel like I've been bombarded with insecurities.
Call it that time of the month, but I'm sure things like this don't only occur to me, but to everybody on a daily basis.
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And I just want to say, that it's completely normal.

We all want some form of validation, some form of acceptance, especially when it comes from the people we really care about. This is why it's important to be kind, understanding and choose the right friends that will support you and have your back through the good and the bad.

Friends who love you, laugh with you, but know when to tell you off when you're being a bitch so they can put you in your place.
Friends who give you a shoulder to lean on without being judgmental when you need to cry, and give constructive unbiased advice when you ask for it,
and at the very least share a listening ear when you don't want to hear it and just need to vent.
Someone who doesn't make you feel alone when you're in a room full of people,
Someone who allows you to be yourself.

I have always been the type of person that's generally pretty friendly. I get along with people easily, but it doesn't necessarily mean I trust them with everything that I have. It's not that I'm saying you shouldn't be too trusting, but being naive like that gets you nowhere.

Yes, I am telling you to be picky with who you're friends with.

You don't need anybody who allows you to spiral downwards, because the people who love you will always want the best for you to see you smile. Even when they know you're wrong and being stubborn, instead of getting annoyed or irritated; they'll tell you like it is, but if they KNOW that's what truly makes you happy, they'll be your backbone and support system that will never shake no matter what.

That is when you know you've found the perfect friend(s).

And honestly it's not that hard to find that friend, if you can be that said person yourself.

We need to always see the good in people. Because we're all equal parts good and bad.
But it makes things so much better if we try to understand the reasons people do what they do, or say what they say. Just because your opinions are different, doesn't make either any less valid than the other.

You are beautiful, you are special, and you are unique, so comparing yourself to anybody else,
or focusing on their strengths and emphasizing your weakness is just gonna hamper the rainbow that is in you.

Don't let anyone tell you you're not the red skittle in a bag of rainbows or the pink power ranger, if that's what you choose to be.
Never be bullied into silence, never think that your opinions don't matter.
You are not a shadow, you are that unique individual, the strong sperm that won.

You are special and you can be whoever you want to be.
The only person that should challenge you is yourself, and how you can better improve your OWN strengths to be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be.
You exist, and you're alive. That in itself is something to be thankful for already.

And when you feel low,
Always remember,

You are important.
You matter.

And always know that somebody out there will always love you no matter what you decide to do with your life.

You are loved.